For many women, and men as well, the idea of having a child is a stepping-stone for self-realization.
Many dream of having a little person in their arms that they have created, and that from now on will do more than give them love (and a few headaches sometimes).
The truth is that although most women dream of this moment, it is not always possible for all.
Some have complications of their own body or
that of their partner that hinders their conception. Although some are left
with the desire, others in their desire to give love to another being and raise
it as their own, decide courageously to adopt.
Adoption processes are often long and cumbersome, since before giving a child to a family or couple, it is necessary to corroborate all the antecedents of the couple and verify if they are really the best option.
The same is true for children. Prospective parents should know all the information they have about them, to know what to expect, and what aspects are more important than others. However, not all countries work the same way.
Teresa Núñez and her husband could not have children, so they decided to adopt. They traveled to Ukraine, where they knew there were many children in need of parents, and it was there that they met their little one.
From the first moment she saw him, Teresa felt that this would be her son, and so it was. However, not everything was so beautiful. Soon, they began to notice certain abnormal behaviors in the child that had no explanation. The fact was that in their information they had no history of anything.
So they decided to take him to the neurologist, who simply evaluated his reflexes and told them that everything was fine.
But Teresa and her husband were still in doubt, and as the
child grew older they noticed more and more strange behaviors. He was very irritable, had some difficulties in learning and
even could not differentiate colors.
After a series of evaluations it was at 7 years of age that they could detect that little Victor, as they chose to call him, suffered from Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, which occurs when through the placenta, the fetus absorbs alcohol that has been ingested by the mother.
This syndrome, which has no cure, has different
manifestations, from physicals such as motor difficulties, small eye size,
among others, such as excessive irritability and difficulty relating even to
cognitive manifestations through difficulties or learning disorders.
Although this syndrome has no cure, it can be treated and have a good prognosis when diagnosed in time.
Although Teresa loves her son and would not change him for the world, she says she felt cheated because the adoption agency never told them that the child had a history of alcoholic parents.
It is known, that there are many children in these same
conditions, and many adoptive parents who do not know it.