Couples counseling is essential for a whole lot of couples, but in particular for celebrities.
The day to day pressures couples face, like kids, communication issues, jealousy, and scheduling, are amplified by a lot greater time apart, retaining up appearances, and the excessive chance that one or the other has to kiss a warm co-star every now and then.
As a result, it is no longer surprising that these couples find means to work out their problems . . . Despite the fact that the tiers of success vary extensively from couple to couple.
The couple opened up to Good Housekeeping about their ongoing therapy for some reason: "You do better in the gym with a trainer; you don't figure out how to cook without reading a recipe," Bell stated. "Therapy is not something to be embarrassed about."
"There were hurdles, things she didn't trust about me, things I didn't trust about her," Shepard said. "I just kept going back to 'This person has the thing I want, and I have to figure out how we can exist peacefully.' So we started [seeing a therapist together] right away."
I could go [into the therapy session] despising him, but by the time I leave — even if he's not in there — I feel like I understand him so much more."
Flip Or Flop hosts Tarek and Christina El Moussa parted ways last May 2016 after a huge fight in which police officers were called and seized firearms from the couple's house after assuming that Tarek was already suicidal.
The couple already admitted that they have been trying to work it out afterwards, but the relationship couldn't recover, even with the help of couples therapy, and Tarek filed for divorce on January 2017.
"As time went on, we got distant from each other. There's a lot going on in our lives," Tarek told told Today. "We tried the counseling and it just really wasn't working." He expounded to expounded to Us Weekly, "We didn't stay together that night [of the fight].
We went to counseling to see what we could do to work things out. Ultimately, it was best to separate. Over the summer, I moved out. We thought it was best to have space. We didn't want the kids to see us upset."
Pink and Carey Hart separated already last 2008 and even filed for divorce — but thanks to marriage therapy and counseling, they never signed the written papers and are now very much already happily married with two loving kids.
Pink said to Redbook that since going to the therapy, "We fight nicer. There is no yelling in front of [daughter] Willow, ever. We can argue, just no yelling. We are couples-therapy people. We do it for maintenance, not problems."
Jillian filed for divorce last January 2015 to her husband, but by January 2016 they called off the split — with the guidance and a lot more counseling. Dempsey said People, "Our marriage was not something I was prepared to let go of. I didn't feel like we had done all the work.
And we both wanted to do that work. That's where it started … "Jill and I decided it was time to work on our issues and improve. We wanted to be role models for our kids like, 'Okay, if you have differences, you can work them out."
He added, "We decided it was time to get in [to therapy] and work on our individual issues and our issues as a couple … I [learned] to prioritize. Our union has to be the priority. I wasn't prepared to give up on her and she wasn't either. We both wanted to fight for it … You've got to keep at it.
You've got to communicate, and stay open and not get lazy. And not give up."
Fergie said to Allure that she and her husband, Josh Duhamel went to the therapy both as a couple and an individual. "[Duhamel] is not afraid," Fergie said. "He doesn't feel like he's not man enough."
That was where the partner made their two-week rule: Neither one of us is allowed to be on set or tour solo for more than two weeks, and after their son, Axl was born, they made more time together even more. "We've already talked about how we're going to have to trade off," she said.
"He's going to have to come on tour with Axl for a while, and then there'll be a break. He'll take a job; I'll be on set with Axl. You know?"
The past Laguna Beach icon Kristin Cavallari is now open about how couple counseling was crucial to the survival of her marriage to previous Chicago Bears quarterback Jay Cutler. "We don't have a perfect relationship. You know, we work on it.
We're in therapy," she told Sirius XM's Wake Up With Taylor last March 2016.
"One hundred percent, I think it saved our relationship. It's the best. And I think it's so good for each person individually as well. I realized why I react certain ways to certain things, and you learn great tools for communication, which is the most important thing I think.
And so, yeah, I 100 percent credit our therapist."
Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe were divorced last 2006 after seven years of marriage and Phillippe's alleged contorversy with Abbie Cornish, his co-actor on Stop-Loss.
He said to the New York Daily News before they separated that they weren't embarassed of their time in couple's counseling before the break up.
"The biggest mistake is not doing that," Phillippe said, "ignoring it and have the marriage fall apart because of laziness." Witherspoon previously voiced the same sentiments in a 2002 Access Hollywood interview, saying, "I don't think there should be a social stigma attached to having therapy.
It's self improvement."
How to make couple’s therapy successful
Dr. Kunst states out that tons of the success or failure outcomes of couples therapy and counseling and has several components: who your therapist is, whether their methods are compatible with you and your partner, and how long you waited to go to counseling.
Dr. Kunst explains, "Couples therapy is often at a great disadvantage because the couple has waited too long to get help. By the time they get help, their heels are stubbornly dug in; too much damage has been done.
Also, couples therapy is
often at a great disadvantage because each member of the couple overtly or
covertly is there in order to get help for the other one. Therapy can't be of
much help unless the each person is willing to work on him or herself."